Dealing with the Stress of Divorce
Dealing with the Stress of Divorce
Going through a divorce or dealing with a contentious custody dispute can be one of the most emotional and stressful experiences for anyone. This stress affects not only the parties to the case but those living with them, as well.
Certain tips can help when it comes to coping with the stress of a family law case.
Divorce Stress Syndrome
Divorce is one of the most stressful events in someone’s life, ranking just second to the death of a spouse. After all, a divorce is essentially the death of a relationship.
Mental health professionals often refer to this stress as “divorce stress syndrome.” Not every person reacts to stress in the same manner, and the stress that comes with a divorce can include anger, anxiety, sadness, frustration, or even depression.
Some of a person’s worst character traits can also come out during a divorce or custody proceeding because of a divorce’s emotion. Family law cases can quickly get ugly, especially when children are involved. These cases can also cause a great deal of financial stress for all involved too.
Letting emotions get out of control and the stress to get to an unmanageable point will only hurt a person’s case in the long run. For this reason, it may help to talk to a medical professional who can help when it comes to stress management.
It is also important to work with a legal professional who can keep a level head during the legal negotiations or the trial, especially testimony. Cross-examination by the other side’s attorney can be extremely stressful and can make it very easy to become overly emotional. It is imperative to keep those emotions controlled and intact to handle oneself during a contentious hearing properly.
Several different types of counseling exist for family law matters. Family counseling could be a viable option, especially if children are a part of the equation.
Individual divorce counseling is also helpful to discuss adult issues one-on-one with a licensed therapist. These therapists are well-trained in working with clients through the end of a relationship, establishing coping techniques, and talking through important issues that come up.
Besides, group therapy or support groups can also help individuals going through a divorce or a custody proceeding.
Keep a Healthy Lifestyle
One tip that can often go without saying but makes a huge difference in keeping a healthy lifestyle. Actively make good health choices, including exercising, getting enough sleep, and eating a well-balanced diet.
If the person notices that they are indulging in certain activities like the over-consumption of alcohol, sleeping too much or not enough, or wanting to pull away from loved ones, it may be time to contact a medical or mental health professional to see if other reasons exist for this behavior.
Develop a Safety Plan
Family law cases also often involve issues of domestic violence. If domestic violence is a factor in the relationship, it is important to take certain safety measures for both the client and their family.
Know when it is appropriate to contact law enforcement and talk with loved ones regarding what to do if the client believes they are not safe living alone. Also, be sure that the client’s attorney is aware of the issues for negotiation and trial.
Create a Financial Plan
Finances are a major cause of stress during a divorce case. The parties are taking one household budget and splitting it into two separate households.
One party often is the major income-earner in the household, especially if one parent stayed home to raise children while the other worked. This spilled leaves the party who didn’t earn the income wondering how they will make ends meet once the divorce is finalized.
Also, the divorce process can be expensive in and of itself. Legal expenses can get high when paying for an attorney, a private mediator, a child custody evaluator, or any other professional needed during the proceedings. A judge may make an interim financial order during the pendency of the case and establish support, but this still can lead to tight financial circumstances even with the support.
It helps to work with a financial advisor to establish a budget based on fixed expenses. Once the divorce proceeding is over, the client is ready to handle their financial situation alone. This plan also helps alleviate some of the uncertainty and stress behind what the future will bring once all is said and done.
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